It's brilliant to see this in writing. I've had three births, and the first was highly traumatic with damage to me and (relatively short term) my baby. I was listened to by two of the ten people in the room and that made a big difference, but the next 6 days in hospital no-one was listening, everyone was blaming me and there was a cultur…
It's brilliant to see this in writing. I've had three births, and the first was highly traumatic with damage to me and (relatively short term) my baby. I was listened to by two of the ten people in the room and that made a big difference, but the next 6 days in hospital no-one was listening, everyone was blaming me and there was a culture of mum is stupid/bad and the only person that matters is the baby even if the mum is being thwarted at every turn. It was absolutely awful. During the birth I was not allowed the window open despite the lack of air and I had to lie down despite wanting to sit up. I think broadly I was at one of the better centres but it fell badly in so many ways and no-one ever offered any kind of follow up or chance to feed back and improve things.
It's brilliant to see this in writing. I've had three births, and the first was highly traumatic with damage to me and (relatively short term) my baby. I was listened to by two of the ten people in the room and that made a big difference, but the next 6 days in hospital no-one was listening, everyone was blaming me and there was a culture of mum is stupid/bad and the only person that matters is the baby even if the mum is being thwarted at every turn. It was absolutely awful. During the birth I was not allowed the window open despite the lack of air and I had to lie down despite wanting to sit up. I think broadly I was at one of the better centres but it fell badly in so many ways and no-one ever offered any kind of follow up or chance to feed back and improve things.